It’s no secret that finding someone you can spend forever with is a daunting task. The fact is it will likely take swinging the bat, and epically missing, several times before you hit the home run. This reality is becoming increasingly true as dating apps have quickly become the primary way single men and women are looking for their partners.
Call me old fashioned, but I believe there is a better way. Indeed, the options are more numerous through the dating apps, but do you honestly believe that swiping right is the best way to find love? If you are struggling to find a relationship worth pursuing, know that you are not alone. After struggling in the dating world, finding dud after dud, I finally found a formula that, it turns out, people have been using for generations.
Take a trip down memory lane with me and follow along as I outline below what I believe to be the ultimate path to finding a lasting relationship.
Get Yourself Together
To find someone excited to spend a lifetime with you, I think it’s important to be honest about how valuable you currently are, first. This may sound harsh but stick with me. The truth is that people immediately pick up on your self confidence, and usually will believe what you are inadvertently telling them. Arrogance aside, if you have nothing going for you, it’s pretty easy to say that. Does that sound like someone you’d be interested in? Me either. Spend the time and energy to focus on yourself first and recreate yourself. Find things you are passionate about and build on some interests. You’ll walk around with your head held a little higher, which can make all the difference.
Immerse Yourself In Your Passions
Get involved with something positive that brings you joy. This could be anything from volunteering at the Humane Society to joining a community gym. You will not only develop into a more interesting human, but you will start to meet people who share the same interests as you. See where I’m going with this?
Be Open To New People
You never know when you may be shaking the hand of your future soulmate. If you are closed off and shy, you might miss your opportunity entirely. Keep an open mind and give people a shot at getting to know you! You might surprise yourself!
Start Slow, Build Relationship
When you find someone you connect with and are interested in getting to know better, be sure not to try and move too fast. Genuine connection takes time to build, and coming across as desperate or eager to rush things will more often than not have you falling on your face. Keep things slow and enjoy the process, with any luck, it’ll be the last time you do this!
In today’s society, finding a long term partner is more complicated than it’s ever been. The dating apps that are meant to bring convenience to the process have, in my mind, cheapened the process and given the impression that instant gratification is possible. By taking the time to do things the right way (as it’s always been done!), you stand a much better chance of finding that special someone!